Why We Blame Everyone But Ourselves

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Human nature has a complex relationship with accountability. When things go wrong or not as planned, our first instinct often isn’t to look inward but to find an external source to blame. This tendency to point fingers elsewhere rather than at ourselves is deeply rooted within most of us.

School was out and I was running out of ideas for “fun day” activities with my son. It was beginning to be quite a bit of a challenge in keeping Marley’s interest. At 8 yrs old, it was easy for him to say how bored he was with my failed attempts at having fun, LOL.

Nevertheless, one morning I came up with “MOVIE DAY”. I decided to transform the TV Room into somewhat of a theater and we would eat pop corn and watch movies we both loved for the entire day. He went absolutely ballistic with the idea, so it seemed as though I had hit the “mother-load”.

Now, Marley has a guinea pig named Jackson, and we had a particular container filled with his pellet food. It so happened, that I also had an identical container for sugar, which happened to be right next to Jackson’s food container. You see where I am going with this right?!?!?

So, while making a cup of tea, being overly excited to get the first movie going, Marley began to call out to me. I was so focused on rushing to get into the “theater” that I ended up scooping a heap load of Jackson’s pellets and dashed it instantly into the tea…LOL!

Blame Them All!

Immediately, I went on a blaming spree. I blamed Marley for rushing me. I blamed the harmless guinea pig, wishing I never bought it. I even went on blaming Marley’s dad for not being around enough, so I won’t have to constantly come up with all these “fun stuff”.

I even had it in my mind to blame God for not having the finances to go on a “proper” vacation. That’s right, I even went as far as to BLAME IT ON Jesus!! Oh my, didn’t that escalate rapidly!?

That’s what you call “zero to 100 real quick” right?!?!?! It was in my mind to blame everyone and everything, beside MYSELF!

I was the one that made the decision to hurry and not be observant. I was the one that placed the two containers side by side. Yet still, I managed to cast blame. Sounds familiar doesn’t it?

Sort of like what Adam did in the garden. After making the decision to eat the fruit he was commanded not to eat. In Genesis 3:12, Adam told God “It was the woman you gave me, who gave me the fruit to eat!”

Adam was blaming Eve for giving him the fruit, and, by extension, Adam was blaming God for the woman He created for him. He put the fruit in his mouth, chewed it and swallowed.

Yet still, Adam was able to cast blame. It is so easy to see how preposterous it was for Adam to cast blame in that manner. But, we do the same, in our own lives.

It’s easier to remove ourselves

It’s so easy to blame our abusive parents for our low self-esteem. How about blaming peer pressure for the wrong decisions we make. Or maybe it’s our tough experiences for not doing better in life.

It’s so easy to blame everything and everyone. But you can see that it is a nature that traces all the way back to Adam in the garden of his fallen state.

It is one of the aspects of what is called the “Adamic nature ”. God sent His only Son, to die on a cross to deliver us from this very nature.

The “Adamic nature” or the “old man” or the “carnal nature” as the Bible would call it, is what you can call the moral depravity of man. Those are just fancy words to say the sinful nature of man.

But Thank God For Jesus!!!!

In the book of Romans we learn that Jesus didn’t just die for us to be forgiven. When he died, He justified us (Romans 1 – 5). He sent us His Holy Spirit to help us, so that by crucifying the flesh daily, He can sanctify us from this wretched “Adamic nature” (Romans 6).

He also said “ALL things work together for GOOD for those who love Him and are called for His purpose (Romans 8)”.

We can embrace our past rather than regret it. We can allow God to use our past rather than be bound by it!! What an awesome God we serve.Shout HALLELUJAH!!!!

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  1. Dear God,
    Lord Jesus,You are our awesome God,what an awesome God we serve.
    I thank You Lord,for You always make all things work together for my good.
    Thank You Lord,for teaching me to patiently with this life,with people and with myself.
    Lord Jesus,we live in this world everyday we have situation or problem will be happen in our life.
    I surrender all to You,Lord Jesus.May You,Lord Jesus.
    Give me a way out to through it all this trying times. Amen.
    I will follow Your way,Lord Jesus,to be patient to wait untill the situation go away,waiting for the perfect timing.
    So,I don’t want to blame anyone,it’s better I blame myself. Amen.
    Thank You Lord,for bless me with the strength to stand strong throughout the day.
    In Jesus mighty name I pray.
    Amen and Amen.

  2. Yes it is so easy to blame others instead of take the responsibilities for our actions
    I surrender to you Precious Father, I am responsible for my actions, I am a child of the most high, I love you and need you
    Thy will be done
    Amen & Amen

  3. Its way past time to embrace my past, I am forgiven, I’m throwing it off the mountain top
    My past does not define the child of God I am today! Thank you Jesus
    Amen & Amen

  4. Dear Father God.
    I thank you Father,to teach me to be patient with this life,with people and with myself.
    We know that everyday the situation or the problem will be happen in our life.
    I give it all to You,dear Lord Jesus,please help me,give me a way out,to through it all this trial times.
    I don’t want to blame everyone.
    It is better I blame myself.
    Every problem happen in my daily life,may be I make something wrong,or I don’t know to make a right decision.
    I thank you Father,for You always make all things work together for my good.
    I shall follow You way,dear Lord Jesus Christ.to do everything in my daily life.,to be patiently to wait untill the situation go away,waiting for the perfect timing.
    In Jesus mighty name I pray.
    Amen and Amen.

  5. Such a good point. I just saw a video about blame. He who gets blamed gets the power!

    How awful is it then for us to tell our children to blame themselves?? That means we GIVE over our power to them! I will now let them blame me all day long. My husband blamed me and now I have the power. I am not sure what this all means in the grand scheme of things but maybe realizing all these things happen for a reason is the best solution. Romans 8:28 is my life verse too